tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6274698068915873229.post2122879954037382240..comments2023-10-16T09:27:44.846-05:00Comments on Confessions of a Fat Superhero: An Open Letter to George TakeiLyshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16807655882337228483noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6274698068915873229.post-88673912261635276262012-07-09T09:39:30.276-05:002012-07-09T09:39:30.276-05:00Hi there. I am both gay and fat, and I read the me...Hi there. I am both gay and fat, and I read the meme that you reposted this, too. I don't think homophobia and fatphobia are the same, and I don't think I've been denied as much being fat as I have being gay, but on some level, I think my experience of fatphobia is worse. (I am speaking only of myself here.)<br /><br />When I came out as a lesbian, I had this idea that I was nearly righteous in doing so. I came from a violent, Catholic family, and I was taking a lot of risks in doing so, but I felt that I was right, and I would be okay. I was. No, I can't get married (although I can now where I live), and yes, people hate me even though they don't know me. And that is all awful, but I have surrounded myself with people who love me and believe in my rights.<br /><br />I live in NY, and the liberal east coast thing prevents me from ever feeling like having those rights taken away is justified.<br /><br />I constantly feel bad about myself, and this has nothing to do with being gay. I look in the mirror, and I know that everyone thinks I just sit on the couch. And you know, they aren't wrong. But I spent 27 years being sexually brutalized, so every action I take that gets me inside that body instead of inside my head feels dangerous and makes me want to die because it reminds me how close I am to having that experience again and for the rest of my life. <br /><br />I hear this in particular, "I am not talking about people who are fighting the weight." I am and am not fighting the weight all the time, whether I sit on my couch and hide or not. I've been skinny, and I've been fat. And both times, I was sitting on my couch because I couldn't bear to get inside my body and remember everything that has been done to me.<br /><br />Thank you for posting this... for speaking up in an eloquent way about the kinds of active discrimination we go through on a day to day basis... I hope it has an impact.Missy Y. (formerly A Case of You)https://www.blogger.com/profile/00024813150457436868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6274698068915873229.post-56602787371641401462011-12-29T04:13:45.022-06:002011-12-29T04:13:45.022-06:00Beautiful letter.... please keep us updated. :-*Beautiful letter.... please keep us updated. :-*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6274698068915873229.post-58410848437382494812011-12-14T17:17:10.029-06:002011-12-14T17:17:10.029-06:00I am with you. I can never understand it when a pe...I am with you. I can never understand it when a person who is lucky enough to be beloved by many sees fit to alienate a portion of their fan base. It's as if he's saying "meh, my fat fans don't matter. They're just fatties. Who needs them?"Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06857378831052530432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6274698068915873229.post-49425269287652466052011-12-14T08:54:40.574-06:002011-12-14T08:54:40.574-06:00Brava!Brava!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6274698068915873229.post-14247677254282037872011-12-13T19:40:40.251-06:002011-12-13T19:40:40.251-06:00AWESOME!AWESOME!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6274698068915873229.post-56239071990034451112011-12-13T18:20:13.189-06:002011-12-13T18:20:13.189-06:00I wept reading this....beautifully articulated and...I wept reading this....beautifully articulated and expressed......My heartfelt thanks to you Lys for...voicing outwardly, what is so deeply trapped inside this FAT Body....Love & Blessing to you...DomenicaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6274698068915873229.post-74215467665651062292011-12-13T17:48:15.922-06:002011-12-13T17:48:15.922-06:00"Man looks on the outward appearance, but God..."Man looks on the outward appearance, but God looks on the heart." I Samuel 16:7 <br /><br />I think you are an awesome person, and anyone who passes you over because they can only see that there is more of you to love is shallow and does not deserve to have you in their life. Love you, lady!Kim Beebe Wellshttp://www.kiminperu.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6274698068915873229.post-36003135193970413732011-12-13T16:13:11.455-06:002011-12-13T16:13:11.455-06:00XOXOMrs. K At Homehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08003740910850882207noreply@blogger.com